Monday, October 22, 2007

Tolerating roommates and being a tolerable roommate

The greatest conflicts are not between two people but between one person and her/himself."

Try to remember that each human being is trying for the same thing you are-to be happy and at ease. Don’t demonize those you don’t like.

“Peace starts within each of us. When we have inner peace, we can be at peace with those around us.” Dalai Lama

If you are having difficulty, try to address it immediately. Don’t tell yourself it is “no big deal.” Talk with the person you have an issue with. If you are unsuccessful in resolving the problem, you can talk to your RA or the residence staff.

This site has tips for living with roommates.

Friday, October 19, 2007

Feeling the squeeeeeze

Mid-terms! Major assignments! Group projects! Presentations!

You are now hitting the half-way mark of your semester. Are you starting to have some doubts about your ability to succeed in your post secondary education? There are lots of supports at the College to help you reach your goals

Fear not because fear just is not a helpful emotion at this point. A little stress isn't bad if it is the good kind of stress that motivates you to decide you can skip a TV show or two and maybe reduce the party commitments a little.

Fear itself though, creates a whole series of reactions in your body and brain which do not create an ideal internal situation for clarity of mind!

A few disappointing test results, a bad mark on an assignment? It happens to lots of students. Your best strategy at this point is not to linger and brood on what cannot be changed. Give yourself and your friends some pep talks and move forward. Take good care of yourself and your friends. Make each other good meals. Encourage each other to take time for the gym or a walk. Remind each other to get some sleep. Set up some study group times to encourage each other in staying focused and committed to your goals.

A mind that is anxious or full of fear does not learn easily. Relax your mind. Check out YouTube where you can type in "relaxation" and you will see many options for 5 min, 10 min or half hour relaxations. Or try out the relaxation/meditation every Tuesday and Thursday from 12-12:30 in room 2L26.

If you are finding you really do not understand some of your class work or feel unable to get yourself on track don't forget you have a student success mentor who can help support you and get you ON TRAK. You can book appointment time through Jodie in the Student Success Hub just above the computer lab.

The mentors also offer workshops on time management,coping with stress and notetaking. Check out the workshops remaining for this semester.

October 29 Student Success: Making It Work
4:00 pm in Room 2H16

November 5 Student Success: Making It Work
4:00 pm in Room 2H16
6:30 pm in Rez Common Room

November 12 Student Success: Surviving The Crunch
4:00 pm in Room 2H16
6:30 pm in Rez Common Room

Remember you are not alone here at the college. There are many supports to help you to succeed. We have counselors and a mental health nurse. You can make appointments with them as well through Jodie in the Student Success Hub.

Take a couple of deep breaths, roll your shoulders and let them drop. Another couple of deep breaths and reeeeelax your mind, feed it good food, give it some restful sleep, take it out for some fresh air. It will respond by learning with more ease and allowing you a feeling of peacefulness rather than stress.

Health Sexuality

I think it may be a sad comment on the state of our evolution that when we talk about healthy sexuality we usually mean how to avoid sickness and even death.

Healthy sexuality is more than protecting yourself from disease and pregnancy. These in themselves are extremely important issues. Also of great importance is developing an understanding of your own sexuality,how you function emotionally and knowing how to experience one of the great pleasures of our humanness without ignorance and shame.

Young students can be particularly vulnerable to unpleasant or even traumatic sexual experiences due to the use of alcohol and other substances. Using puts you at risk of making choices you would not usually make. Just a few moments of poor choice can create a lifetime of consequences. You also miss the exquisite experience when you are not fully present due to altered consciousness.

This website offers a really interesting discussion of the many facets of sexuality exploring more than just sexual feelings and sexual intercourse. It speaks to issues of body image, sensuality and how we view ourselves in our gender roles.

Loyalist College is a Rainbow positive college. Rainbow community includes gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, two-spirited and any other alternative you can think of as well as their allies. We have a weekly drop in group and an on-line Rainbow Message Board. For access info to either connect with Valerie in Mind and Wellness Services in the Student Hub or email her at

This is a great site with quizzes, virtual scenarios and the sex-fu challenge (a video game that challenges your sex knowledge)
The site offers a demo on using condoms as well as info on how to make a dental dam out of a condom. It has loads of other useful, up-to-date, down to earth, real life info.

Specifically addressing gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, trans, queer, etc.

Thursday, October 11, 2007

Sleep. Who Needs It?

There are so many more interesting things to do with your time than sleep, right? You have classes and assignments and tests. Maybe you have a job as well. You've got to spend some time with friends and have some fun; and staying fit takes some time too. Now, when exactly is there time for this sleep business?

Our culture in general has a sleep debt. Your poor human body unfortunately is not going to let you get away with so little sleep for long. As you get further into the school year, you may notice you have a shorter fuse? Get irritated by very small annoyances? Can't seem to focus for long? Reach for sugary treats of coffee more often to give you a quick boost? Can't get those assignments done as easily as you did before?

Sleep is one of most basic human needs for reeenergizing. Sleeping and eating disorders are becoming more prevalent among college age students.

Most college students fall short when it comes to getting enough sleep. Sleep is a powerful tool for maintaining balance. Sleep deprivation can hurt academic performance and increase stress. Sleep requirements vary for each individual but studies show college students need more than 8 hours/night! No kidding.

Learn to say NO. You won’t be able to do everything. And after a while nothing you do brings you any real satisfaction if you feel a constant sense of fatigue.

I heard a student in the halls last week calling out to a friend as they headed home for the weekend "And don't forget to get some sleep!" What a great friend. We all need those words ringing in our heads reminding us.

You will find some great tips at this site on how to develop some good sleep habits.

Look in the sleep and wellness section on this site.

Friday, October 5, 2007

Brain Holidays

Recently a lot of scientific research has been done on meditation. Following are just some of the benefits research has confirmed:
1. A relaxed, calm state of mind becomes a learned response when practiced continuously over time. Imagine remaining calm in any situation!
2. A large percentage of doctor office visits and counselling appointments are related to stress. Meditation is one of the best tools for coping with stress.
3. It increases concentration and focus ability

Meditation instruction and practice is available to any student at Loyalist on Tuesdays and Thursdays in Rm 1L26 from 12-12:30. Drop in and try it out.

This site has a wealth of information specifically directed toward college students. You will find sections on all aspects of health – mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. It speaks about the negative emotions most common to college students and gives tips on how to deal with them.